How to Get into Trouble

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One of the areas of my work is talking to couples who are planning to marry. Most people getting married don't expect things will change after the wedding, especially if they've been together for a long time, or if they've already spent some time living together. But people who are married will tell you that something unexpected happens in marriage.

What's interesting, is that where marriage is the most challenging, it can also be the most rewarding. Marriage experts who hold marriage in such high regard also speak very candidly about the trouble of marriage. Family therapist Salvador Minuchin says: every marriage is a mistake some people just cope with their mistakes better than others.

Couples psychologist David Schnarr says: no one is ready for marriage, marriage makes you ready for marriage.

Marriage therapist team and married couple John and Julia Gottman write: we teach couples that they'll never solve most of their problems, and it's a myth that if you solve your problems you'll automatically be happy.

Now, these are not cynical voices. These are voices who revere the sacred institute of marriage. These are voices who have incredible experience to help married couples with what they may experience as life's single greatest challenge, and also single greatest reward.

Pre-marriage counseling helps you to get an early start on the challenge and the reward.